Sex, Sensuality, Sexuality, and Orgasm

Sex seems to be an attention grabber since it sparks most people’s curiosity when they hear the word, hear sexual sounds, or see sexual images. Some of you have been programmed to think sex is a bad word and that sex is a dirty little secret. Well, we should all be thankful for sex being that it is the means from which we were conceived. Yes, it is a part of nature and it is necessary to sustain life on Earth. I’m not going to talk about the evolutionary or biological aspects of sex since that is somewhat boring in comparison to the stimulating and passionate side of sex.

What comes to your mind when you think of sensuality? Do you imagine a person, clothing, breathing, a touch, a smell, a sound, kissing, or nudity? Sensuality can include all of these things and more things that can arouse your romantic or sexual desires. As a CMT, some men asked if I gave sensual massages. I always said “NO” since I felt sensuality was inappropriate in a professional and therapeutic massage session. However, massaging each other is a great way for lovers to heighten their sensuality. Envision your special someone and then envision spending quality time touching, breathing, kissing, exploring each other's bodies, etc.

In college I took Human Sexuality classes that covered all aspects of sexuality. Some human sexuality textbooks tend to elaborate on the frightening side of sexuality that includes sexual disorders, sexual dysfunctions and sexual diseases. On the other end of the spectrum is the fun and erotic part of sexuality that Sheri Winston likes to elaborate on and sometimes fondly refer to as “Hot Wholistic Sexuality.” As an educator, Sherri will also cover helpful and not so "hot" topics about safe sex and vaginal hygiene. These two things can really add to the sensuality of sexually healthy and enjoyable relations. 

At the beginning of October I attended the Southeast Women’s Herbal Conference in North Carolina where I met Sheri Winston of the Intimate Arts Center. Before meeting Sheri, I had become familiar with her work and had connected with her via Facebook. She was posting exciting news about her workshops, classes, book, and other sex-related activities. It was a pleasure to meet her and experience her bubbly personality. I attended all three of Sheri’s workshops at the conference and will only say that I have never been involved in an orgasmic orgy before meeting Sheri.

After toying with sensuality and sexuality that can lead to sex, the next desired step would be an orgasm. Just close your eyes and say the word “orgasm” as you think of one of your most titillating orgasms. Were you with someone or were you alone during that moment? According to Sheri, you can have great orgasms alone! (This is probably not a surprise for some of you.) As a matter of fact, she teaches that you can have a great orgasm without even touching yourself.

Well, these are my abbreviated thoughts on the topics that you can learn more about from Sheri Winston on my Feminine Sex & Sexuality page (www.feminineunity.org/femininesexsexuality.aspx) or at Sheri’s site (http://intimateartscenter.com). Here’s your chance to take Sex 101 and learn about Orgasmic Abundance: Seven Tips for Spectacular Sex and Outrageous Orgasms. 

On page one of her book, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal, Sheri has included a very appropriate poem by Walt Whitman that I like very much.

A Woman Waits for Me

(excerpt)

by Walt Whitman

A woman waits for me,

she contains all, nothing is lacking,

Yet all were lacking if sex were lacking,

or if the moisture of the right man were lacking.

Sex contains all, bodies, souls,

meanings, proofs, purities,

delicacies, results, promulgations,

songs, commands, health, pride,

the maternal mystery, the seminal milk,

all hopes, benefactions, bestowals,

all the passions, loves, beauties, delights of the earth,

all the governments, judges, gods,

follow’d persons of the earth,

These are contain’d in sex as parts of itself

and justifications of itself.

Without shame the man I like knows and avows

the deliciousness of his sex,

Without shame the woman I like

knows and avows hers.